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Recording and Listening: The Healing Power of Your Own Voice November 23, 2016

One is one’s own refuge. Who else could be the refuge?
The Buddha

 

 

For years I have wanted to tape a recording of all the things I wish I could say to each and every one of you. Every compassionate, kind, gentle, patient, accepting, affirming, understanding, appreciative, and supportive thought to make you feel as good and right in yourself as you possibly can. I let this idea steep for years. Luckily, waiting was the right choice since I found something better to share with you.

 

In an interview on the Sounds True podcast between Tami Simon and Cheri Huber, Cheri raved about her process called Recording and Listening. You simply record yourself saying anything you think will help you. It could be gentle reminders of your resiliency, nurturing words of compassion and support, lists of things you are grateful for, meaningful quotes, or anything you wish were being said to you, or wish had been said to you as a child. Hearing yourself say these things out loud is far more powerful than anyone else saying them to you.

 

As I always like to experiment with new techniques before I suggest them, I downloaded a free app called Voice Recorder from Tap Media Ltd. It is so incredibly simple and intuitive to use I was recording in no time.

 

At first, this may seem awkward and you might not know what you want to say. Take a few slow, deep breaths into your heart and just see what comes up. As you continue to record things you want to hear you will get more comfortable with the process, even if you think you dislike the sound of your own voice. Be patient, it’s a new skill set.

 

Of course, half of this practice is actually listening to what you recorded. You can listen any time you want an emotional boost, a reminder of your resiliency, a connection to the part of you that helps you feel safe, or you crave some unconditional self-acceptance. It can also be very helpful to listen before you go to sleep as your defenses melt into unconsciousness and you can open up to really hearing every loving, supportive, emotionally generous thought you have for yourself.

 

 

To jump start this practice just go to one of the following chapters on this site and record whatever parts of it you find most helpful:

 

Affirmations for self-empowerment and emotional freedom

 

Quotes to life by

 

Litany of love

 

Poems

 

Manifesto for emotional self care

 

Manifesto II: How to write yours

 

It’s OK Sweetheart

 

Last but not least, when you’re feeling upset ask yourself what would I really t to hear from someone who loved me right now? Record those caring, kind, patient, gentle, supportive, understanding  words and listen to them as often as you want. They can be incredibly grounding, and provide you with a new perspective when you are drowning in negative or scary thoughts.

 

 

Copyright Nicole S. Urdang

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Music playlist to help you through a Divorce or Break-Up

Filed under: Music playlist to help you through a Divorce or Break-Up — chocophile @ 1:19 pm

 
 

Here’s a list of songs designed to make you feel better during or after a divorce or break-up.

 

Juice Newton LOVE’S BEEN A LITTLE BIT HARD ON ME

Sterling Harrison DON’T YOU MESS WITH MY MONEY

Chantal Kreviazuk WEIGHT OF THE WORLD

Mary Chapin Carpenter I FEEL LUCKY

Allison Moorer RING OF FIRE

Chase the Sun YOU GOTTA GO

Mary Chapin Carpenter HE THINKS HE’LL KEEP HER

Warren Haynes SOULSHINE

The Whites KEEP ON THE SUNNY SIDE

Linda Ronstadt YOU’RE NO GOOD

Mary Chapin Carpenter THE BUG

Joe Cocker WITH A LITTLE HELP FROM MY FRIENDS

Huey Lewis & the News I WANT A NEW DRUG

Yello OH YEAH

Erin Jaimes with John Mc Vey & the Stumble DON’T MESS WITH THE MESSER

Bonnie Raitt I CAN’T HELP YOU NOW

Marvin Gaye SEXUAL HEALING

Carol Woods and Timothy T. Mitchum LET IT BE

K.T. Tunstall HEAL OVER

The Strange Familiar COURAGE IS

Snatam Kaur LONG TIME SUN

Amy Conley I’VE GOT PEACE LIKE A RIVER

Jack Johnson I SHALL BE RELEASED

Sophie Milman SO LONG YOU FOOL

Jimmy Cliff I CAN SEE CLEARLY NOW

Carole King BEAUTIFUL

Simon & Garfunkel AMERICAN TUNE

Bonnie Raitt REAL MAN

Meghan Trainor LIPS ARE MOVIN

Susan Tedeschi DON’T THINK TWICE

Aimee Allen ON VACATION

Brigid Kaelin FUTURE MR. USED-TO-BE

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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